Helping Children Cope with the Loss of a Pet
Losing a pet is difficult for the whole family, but it can be especially confusing for children. They may not fully understand what’s happening or know how to process their feelings. Here are some gentle ways to support them through the grief.
Be honest, but gentle
Children need clear, age-appropriate explanations. Using phrases like “put to sleep” can sometimes cause confusion — instead, explain that their pet’s body had become too tired or unwell, and the vet helped them pass away peacefully.
Encourage expression
Let children talk about their feelings, draw pictures, or write letters to their pet. This gives them a safe way to share their emotions.
Create a farewell ritual
Small ceremonies — such as lighting a candle, planting a flower, or reading a poem — help children feel involved in saying goodbye.
Keep memories alive
Make a photo album or memory box together. It can be comforting for children to look back and remember happy times.
Offer reassurance
Remind them it’s okay to feel sad, and that grieving is natural. With love and support, children learn that the bond with their pet will always live on in their hearts.
Books to support children
Books can be a helpful way for children to prepare for the procedure (if time allows) and to process their grief afterwards. Depending on their age, they may prefer to read alone, or they may want you nearby to offer explanations and comfort. Try to make time to answer their questions, and if you’re unsure of an answer, note it down to ask the vet — we are always happy to help.
Here are some of the best-rated children’s books about pet loss on Amazon UK this month:
The Invisible Leash by Patrick Karst – An American book, with some US-specific language, but still a comforting and beautiful story.
The Rainbow Bridge: A Visit to Pet Paradise by Adrian Raeside – A gentle story for children experiencing loss. It does include references to human death, and at the end the child gets a new pet, which may prompt difficult conversations if this isn’t part of your plans.
My Pet Memory Book by S. Wallace – A fill-in memory book rather than a story, where children can write and add keepsakes about their pet’s life. Some readers find it a little basic, so making your own memory book might be another option.
A Rainbow Bridge for Gus by Barbara Bareis Rigabar – A sweet and simple story, especially suited to younger children and toddlers.
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